I am sick an tired of becoming overbearing and possessive and turning my happy, loving relationship into a relationship based on fear, jealousy and control. Possessiveness stems from feelings of insecurity in a relationship, where the possessive person doubts the love and dedication of another person and as a result, becomes jealous and controlling.m afraid m neither in any of those conditions... that in deed makes the situation worst...
This type of dynamic typically occurs in parent/child relationships and romantic relationships, but can also occur in close friendships too. Unfortunately, the more possessive someone is in a relationship, the more their partner will struggle to be free, hence making the possessive person feel even more insecure and desperate to gain control.Overbearing and possessive people are normally strong-willed people and expect others to conform to their values and wishes. They are typically self-pitying, easily offended and find it hard to give without expecting anything in return. Possessive people are often very talkative, opinionated and argumentative..... understanding all this after an attack is off course of no use :(..
Experience of infidelity, Experience of parental abandonment
Insecurity and lack of self-esteem, Loneliness..
Asking myself why i am so possessive and overbearing. Putig some thought into it. Is it really due to the bad behaviour of the other person or is it more to do with you as a person or something that happened to you in the past ??
not bad but not even gud ... and only think happened with me in past is nothing like this happend in past
i tried Increase my self-esteem and self-confidence to help this hopeless improve his relationships with others.
i ended up frustrating and even more hope less.. :'(
Give my self a reality check - I took a good look at those things that trigger my possessiveness and asked myself how realistic the threat is. Is your behaviour actually making the situation worse?
i think their is no threat, i trust her... It is completely, becoz she is avoiding me at the same time very gud with some one else and all these fucking restrictions..
I Talk to myself up - when i start feeling the twinges of jealousy and possessiveness, i remind myself that my partner loves me, is committed to you and respects you. Tell myself you're a loveable person and that nothing's going on that you’re not aware of.
yes m aware of everything.. she is very truth full.... committed ??? nop she says she is single....
I Seek reassurance, one of the best ways to beat possessiveness !! I asked fo hlp, asked my partner for reassurance. Made sure that i don't nag, bully or control, instead .... just shared my insecurities and asked to help you overcome the problem...
she said she wont help me... neither the stupid reassurance ..!!
THE PROBLEM IS I have made my primary relationship the focus of my whole life, i must find other avenues of fulfillment in other areas of my life.
you r the best princess paleeezz
Don’t give up your interests, friends and ambitions outside the relationship just to appease me. This will just feed my possessive and controlling tendencies and will result in you being miserable.... nooop... i don't want that... never !!
m really getting mad..
hopeless, jey
